Couples Therapy

Anywhere in Alliston, Ontario, Canada.

“It’s not about changing each other. It’s more about changing the pattern that’s not working.”

— Emily MacIver

But it wasn’t really about the dishes.

You see the dirty dishes in the sink again (4th night in a row). The dishes that your partner was supposed to do. And this isn’t just the 4th time this has happened since you’ve been together.

And it’s not just the dishes. It’s the laundry. It’s the lack of asking you deeper questions and truly listening to you. It’s the lack of asking you out on a date night.

And it’s really not even about the dishes or the laundry. It’s the lack of so many things. You feel like your partner doesn’t care. You don’t feel seen, cared about, or special.

And it’s felt this way for a little too long.

And at the same time, your partner is giving it their all. Working the long days (and nights sometimes) struggling to keep it all together, and then throw kids into the mix…it’s like getting “caught up” in life just isn’t even a reality.

There’s just so much on the plate now, and so much that’s happened to you both as a couple compared to when you first got those butterflies.

When you first got that spark. (It was so big, maybe it thumped you on the forehead!)

And everything on the plate, and everything that puts stress on your relationship, no matter how long you’ve been together, can feel like a lot.

It’s like your relationship needs a serious tune up. We need the oil changed, we need the tires rotated, we need the inside detailed…we need the……..well that’s all I got for that metaphor.

But you know what I mean right?

There’s a lot that needs to be sorted through. And couples therapy can help you get there.

What if you can reconnect or start to connect in a deeper way?

You start to connect on a lot more levels than work, chores, and the day-to-day.

You get to actually hear each other out, like best friends, of what the heck life has been like for you both.

And best friends that have that romantic zest back or create it.

You both start to share and hear what each other has been feeling.
(I know, ew emotions, why would we?)

What they need and want…and just imagine getting all the best tools that will make your relationship RUN BETTER.

So the dishes, the laundry, the distractedly scrolling on the phone, the lack of date nights, the arguments…aren’t a thing (or at least not as MUCH of a thing. Because we are human right?).

So let’s revamp your relationship.

What are we good at? Giving you both a safe space to share and to feel understood.

We are also good at interrupting your pattern and your cycle of how your relationship has been operating for however long.

Those same old expressions, eye rolls, tones, arguments, huffs and puffs…yep we are going to get in there and shift those.

So you can connect with each other with some softness, some realness, some eagerness to get to know each other again, and some methods and tools to make the communication work and the relationship feel so much better.

“You don’t have to fully go into the feels to have a good emotional connection.”

- Emily MacIver

We help you feel relaxed and understood enough to do the work that needs to be done. We will challenge you when you’re ready to take that next step in working on the relationship.

We are also great at getting BOTH of your sides, and understanding both of your perspectives. So you don’t feel like you’re being ganged up on or thrown under the bus.